Being Happy Is Hard?

Welcome back to my blog, I wanted to do a more advice type blog post today, I’ve always been told that I give good advice to people so I thought I’d share some of my thoughts and feelings about how I stay happy.

I know that being happy can be hard, for various reasons such as mental health or you’re grieving from a loss, there are many reasons why you may not be feeling happy but I do believe we can help ourselves a little bit and contribute to making ourselves feel better.

I’ve had struggles in my life, just as everybody does, where I’ve found it really hard to pick myself back up and put a smile on my face, even if I really didn’t want to. However I’ve always found a way and I wanted to share some tips with you of how I’ve dealt with feeling unhappy in the past.

So my first tip, and some may not agree with this but that’s rightfully your opinion. However I’ve always found that if I can’t be happy for myself then be happy for somebody else, so for me this was my family, I’ve mentioned briefly about my illness but when I was going through that, it was probably the worst time of my life, but I always wanted to remain positive and have a smile on my face to ease the pain for my family and whilst at first this was fake happiness, it eventually turned into feeling real and I did become more positive because of this outlook.

Another thing I like to do when I’m unhappy is pick up a passion, so for me I love to write, I would just start writing random stories about anything and everything, and they wouldn’t be for anybody else’s eyes, only mine. It’s also fun to read them back after a few months and see how much my writing has improved.

Getting out for me is such a healer, even if it’s just a five minute walk to the local shops, the fresh air instantly makes me feel better. Obviously not everybody can bring themselves to leave the house, which is perfectly okay if you’re not ready but instead you could try sitting by your backdoor whilst it’s open or just simply opening your bedroom door to let in some air and hear the birds outside.

Spending time with friends, I’m lucky enough to have amazing friends, they’re always there for me and never fail to put a smile on my face, if I am feeling upset then spending time with them is a distraction for a few hours.

Obviously, there are so many ways you can make yourself feel better but I wanted to share with you some of the ways I help myself.

I really hope that this week for you is a good one.

Aimee 🙂

 

Ljubljana

On our way to Ljubljana we stopped off at Lake Bled, which is one of the most breathtaking places I have ever been too. It was so nice to be amongst nature since we had been in so many cities. It was also really nice to just chill for a bit and enjoy some of the sun and scenery rather than be constantly walking around a city. My photos really don’t do justice to the beauty of this place, but I didn’t think to take many since I wanted to enjoy the scenery for myself.

So after the little stop off at Lake Bled, we reached our destination; Ljubljana. We were only staying here for one night so had to make the most of it and we did. After changing in the hotel into some more suitable clothes, we went and found food right away

We enjoyed the most tasty burgers (I probably say this about every burger I eat but it’s because they’re my favourite thing ever!!) We also then found this ice cream place which sold so many different flavours, I opted to have a marshmallow flavoured one and it did not disappoint. Eating wise, Ljubljana was one of my favourite places for food, there were plenty of restaurants to choose from and all were priced well, so I’d 100% recommend visiting here, or at least if you’re doing some travelling and driving past just explore it for a few hours and grab some lunch.

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After we enjoyed the amazing food, we did some exploring, whilst it was getting dark we tried to take in as much of the small city as possible. In a way I wished we had more time here, I didn’t feel like I got to fully appreciate the city and it was so beautiful but maybe I’ll get a chance to go back there at some point.

When the dark skies finally rolled around, a group of us met up and explored the city by night together, although this exploring was quickly interrupted when we spotted a bar that was having a buy a cocktail get a free cocktail and of course we couldn’t resist.

After enjoying our drinks, we decided to go back to the hotel, I think the fact that everybody was super tired and that the air conditioning had broken meant everyone was a little delirious but it made for some funny memories.

And that concludes the few hours I spent in Ljubljana, a small but stunning city.

Thanks for reading,

Aimee 🙂

How I Keep My Hair Healthy

I’ve always been lucky enough to have thick hair that always seems to be healthy (at least that’s what my hair dresser tells me haha.) I thought I’d share my haircare routine with you today since I like to read posts or watch videos about these sorts of topics and some might find it useful.

I’d guess I better start with a little bit of a background story about why I take extra care of my hair. During 2014 I was diagnosed with a nasty illness which meant I had to have many treatments, as you can imagine this was a horrible time in my life but what made it worse was the changing in my appearance, one of the changes was the thinning of my hair. On one hand I was so grateful that my hair only thinned and I still technically had a full head of hair but for me it was as if I had lost a piece of myself. I will never forget this one time I was chilling with my group of friends and I stood up and one of them pointed out how I had literally malted all over this pillow, I couldn’t apologise enough, luckily they didn’t care at all and were so supportive, something which I will forever be grateful for. So once I had finally got into remission, I wanted to help my hair grow back. This process was long, it wasn’t until summer of 2016 when I finally felt like it was almost completely back to how it had been before 2014.

So in order to help my hair, I used hardly any heat on it, it was so brittle and weak I just didn’t want to risk it. I would rub coconut oil and castor oil into my roots and leave it on for 10-15 minutes before showering. I really found that this helped with the recovery of my hair and I would highly recommend trying this out. My hairdresser told me to buy some hair masks, which I did and they were also amazing and made me feel like I was finally getting some of myself back.

Obviously my hair then grew back at different lengths, so I had some long and then the new hair was a lot shorter, this was frustrating for me as it looked weird but I persevered and once I felt like the new hair was at a decent length I cut my hair short so it was all a similar length. I’m so glad I did this as it gave my hair a chance to grow together rather than at different lengths.

So the aftermath…

I start my haircare routine in the shower, using shampoo and conditioner – a little tip I like to do is if I want more silky straight hair I leave the conditioner in for longer. I really like using Aussie or Dove haircare products and alternate between the two brands. I tend to wash my hair every 3 days or so as I know overwashing isn’t the best thing for your hair! I still use the hair masks but only if I feel like I really need to, although I should probably start using them more now that I want my hair longer again.

Once I’m out of the shower I use either Pantene Dry Oil or the Nuxe Huile Prodigieuse. Both of these I love!! If I want straight hair then I’ll use a hairdryer and brush, since I shower at night I don’t straighten until the morning and when I do straighten I use Tresemme Heat Defence. Then I’ll lightly go over it with Josh Wood Radiant Shine Treatment Oil to help with any frizz.

However if I want wavy hair then I’ll skip the hair drying and straightening process and instead just put it in plaits overnight and wake up with nice wavy hair, although if I feel like I need to curl some parts then obviously I’ll use my heat protectant and possibly some sea salt spray, I like the got2be Beach Matt and the Urban Fudge Sea Salt.

And that’s how I care for my hair. I hoped you enjoyed this post, please do let me know if you have any blog post requests that you’d like me to cover!

Aimee 🙂

Budapest

When we reached Budapest, it was a bittersweet feeling in all honesty. I was so excited about being on this amazing trip but the homesickness feeling really did start to kick in. I think for me being stuck on a coach for so much of the trip really did grate on me, you had hours with nothing to do but think and sleeping was near impossible, it was so uncomfortable and then when you did drift off someone would start chatting loudly or we’d stop at a service station.

Nonetheless, I didn’t want these negative feelings to get in the way and knowing that after Budapest we would be on the last leg of the trip, I wanted to enjoy every moment. My Nan had raved about Budapest and about how amazingly beautiful it was. It truly was wonderful and the photos I took don’t do it justice at all. The architecture this city holds was the best of any of the cities we visited almost as if it’s straight from a fairytale.

 

After having a little sightseeing of the city, we were once again left to our own devices so that evening we went and found food, of course! We roamed around the streets surrounding our Hostel and even saw a man walking a ferret which was pretty cool. By the evening I think we all must’ve been a bit sleep deprived because my travel buddy and I decided it would be a fab idea to climb into a very unstable locker…and yes there is picture evidence… However it was a lovely evening as the four of us in the room just chilled out and laughed all evening.

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After we had rested up, the next day we had booked to do a walking tour, I loved doing walking tours during the trip as it was an amazing way of being able to see all the wonders a city had to offer as well as learning about all the history of the city. Budapest didn’t disappoint in the history department as our guide informed us all about it’s past like how Pest, Buda and Óbuda all unified to become Budapest in 1873. I would 100% recommend doing a tour if you ever visit Budapest as I didn’t know much about it’s history so it was definitely worth while. After the tour we were able to do whatever we wanted so once we felt as though we’d seen everything we found a cute little cocktail place and spent the majority of the late afternoon there enjoying great company and good drinks. I really think this was one of my favourite moments on the trip.

And that ladies and gents sums up my time in Budapest. Whilst it was a rocky start this beautiful city really turned things around and was possibly in my top 5 cities we visited.

I hope you come back to my next travel post where I write about my time in Ljubljana.

Until next time people,

Aimee 🙂

2017!

HAPPY NEW YEAR PEOPLE!!

I really wanted to write a post about the new year and have started this post a few times now but deleted everything I had written. So I’ve decided to just write and see where that takes me rather than overthinking it.

For me personally I’m not a fan of new year, all I think is it’s just a changing of numbers and honestly the many celebrations that I’ve been to celebrating new years have left a bad taste in my mouth for many different reasons. However just because the start of most new years have been a bit shitty doesn’t mean the rest of the year will be. At the end of the day every year is going to have it’s ups and downs, it’s how we cope with the down’s that’s important and making sure we ask for help if we feel like we aren’t coping as best we want.

One thing that I don’t understand about a new year is when people seem to become consumed with this whole ‘new year = new me’ idea but in reality if they wanted to change something about their life, then they can do at any moment.

However I have set myself goals for 2017 and I’m going to be so happy when I achieve them, but if I don’t achieve them all in 2017 then that’s okay, I’m not going to beat myself up about it. Instead I’m just going to set some new goals and carry on.

I really do hope the next 12 months are filled with love and laughter and if you’ve set yourself some goals I truly hope that you smash them!

So here’s to 2017.

Aimee 🙂